Living in Singapore, the concrete jungle, we are all animals first. In this animal kingdom we call ourselves Humans. Humans can be categorised in the following manner. Alpha, Beta, Delta Gamma, Omega and Lambda. Alpha being mostly known as the most strongest of all human class. The most dominant of all. Most of the time people associate me with being an Alpha. The truth is im not. Before i more into further detail let me give you a brief summary about the various classes of the human race.
The alpha is the tall, good-looking guy who is the center of both male and female attention. The classic star of the football team who is dating the prettiest cheerleader. The successful business executive with the beautiful, stylish, blonde, size zero wife. All the women are attracted to him, while all the men want to be him, or at least be his friend. At a social gathering like a party, he’s usually the loud, charismatic guy telling self-flattering stories to a group of attractive women who are listening with interest. However, alphas are only interested in women to the extent that they exist for the alpha’s gratification, physical and psychological, they are actually more concerned with their overall group status.
Betas are the good-looking guys who aren’t as uniformly attractive or socially dominant as the Alpha, but are nevertheless confident, attractive to women, and do well with them. At the party, they are the loud guy’s friends who showed up with the alcohol and who are flirting with the tier one women and cheerfully pairing up with the tier two women. Betas tend to genuinely like women and view them in a somewhat optimistic manner, but they don’t have a lot of illusions about them either. Betas tend to be happy, secure in themselves, and are up for anything their alpha wants to do. When they marry, it is not infrequently to a woman who was one of the alpha’s former girlfriends.
The normal guy. Deltas are the great majority of men. They can’t attract the most attractive women, so they usually aim for the second-tier women with very limited success, and stubbornly resist paying attention to all of the third-tier women who are comfortably in their league. This is ironic, because deltas would almost always be happier with their closest female equivalents. When a delta does manage to land a second-tier woman, he is constantly afraid that she will lose interest in him and will, not infrequently, drive her into the very loss of interest he fears by his non-stop dancing of attendance upon her. In a social setting, the deltas are the men clustered together in groups, each of them making an occasional foray towards various small gaggles of women before beating a hasty retreat when direct eye contact and engaged responses are not forthcoming. Deltas tend to put the female sex on pedestals and have overly optimistic expectations of them; if a man rhapsodizes about his better half or is an inveterate White Knight, he is almost certainly a delta. Deltas like women, but find them mysterious, confusing, and are sometimes secretly a little afraid of them.
The introspective, the unusual, the unattractive, and all too often the bitter. Gammas are often intelligent, usually unsuccessful with women, and not uncommonly all but invisible to them, the gamma alternates between placing women on pedestals and hating the entire sex. This mostly depends upon whether an attractive woman happened to notice his existence or not that day. Too introspective for their own good, gammas are the men who obsess over individual women for extended periods of time and supply the ranks of stalkers, psycho-jealous ex-boyfriends, and the authors of excruciatingly romantic rhyming doggerel. In the unlikely event they are at the party, they are probably in the corner muttering darkly about the behavior of everyone else there… sometimes to themselves. Gammas tend to have have a worship/hate relationship with women, the current direction of which is directly tied to their present situation. However, they are sexual rejects, not social rejects.
The truly unfortunate. Omegas are the social losers who were never in the game. Sometimes creepy, sometimes damaged, often clueless, and always undesirable. They’re not at the party. It would never have crossed anyone’s mind to invite them in the first place. Omegas are either totally indifferent to women or hate them with a borderline homicidal fury. (By the way ive never owned an omega watch and never will i either)
Those men who have quite literally no interest in conventional male-female sexual relations. They clearly have their own hierarchy of sorts, but I can’t say that I know much about it other than it appears to somehow involve youth, free weights, and mustaches.
Well by now, after reading the above, you should know which category you belong in. Here’s where things get interesting. I have to let you all in a secret. I don’t belong to any of the above classifications. Over the years i’ve doing some research and discovered I truly am. I now reveal to you the Sigma Male. Years after years this world has been dominated by the Alpha male. Only one class of men can outbeat, outplay and outsmart the Alpha Male and that’s the Sigma Male. Let me introduce to you the Sigma Male.
We are not a scary bunch of people. We are just people who only play the way we want to play. We don’t conform to rules because we set our own rules. I’m the player that makes gambit moves. I am not afraid to make material sacrifices to attain an advantageous position.
The outsider who doesn’t play the social game and manages to win at it anyhow. The sigma is hated by alphas because sigmas are the only men who don’t accept or at least acknowledge, however grudgingly, their social dominance. (NB: Alphas absolutely hate to be laughed at and a sigma can often enrage an alpha by doing nothing more than smiling at him. Trust me, i do this very often :-}) Everyone else is vaguely confused by them. In a social situation, the sigma is the man who stops in briefly to say hello to a few friends accompanied by a Tier 1 girl that no one has ever seen before. Sigmas like women, but tend to be contemptuous of them. They are usually considered to be strange. Gammas often like to think they are sigmas, failing to understand that sigmas are not social rejects, they are at the top of the social hierarchy despite their refusal to play by its rules.
Alpha and Sigma are the same in many ways, and the most authentic out of all of the classifications. But where the Alpha values submission to him, the Sigma doesn’t. Rather, the sigma values individuality and sees the submission of others to Alpha as inauthentic and weak, and thus, often detests it.
A Sigma is a manipulative mastermind. Like a spider waiting to lay the trap. Possessing a cunning, intuitive mind he can sway people to your will. They don’t have the casual swagger of the alpha or the omega but they do have a clever presence about you and people tend to be both wary and respect you for that. They can often be even more powerful than the alpha or the omega male in social situations due to their ability to persuade and manipulate them. Take note, they are neither a follower or a leader but rather a wild card.
To examine the Sigma is to look at wolves. The wolf pack is the unit of a wolf. The leader of the pack is the Alpha. When a wolf challenges the alpha, this means rejection of leadership; by rejecting leadership, this wolf also rejects servitude as beta. This wolf chooses his own path. The wolf will often leave the pack to hunt for itself. The Sigma is the lone wolf. The Sigma wolf lies in the fringes. The fringe (the path) is a place that is cold, dark, and wild. This is the natural habitat of the Sigma male. Here the wolf develops its bite. This is the animal representation of the Sigma male.
In human terms, the critical distinction rests in rebellion and redefinition. The sigma is a renegade in the sense that he trades a life in the fringes instead of serving as a beta in an alpha slave camp. Existing at fringes imbibes his growth. In the process of living in the fringe, maybe as a start-up where the odds are stacked against him heavily, the Sigma morphs into a powerful male. They are replete with dark energies that give them an edge in survival.
I’m born this way. It’s what defines me. Everyone should and ought to know their capabilities so that they can work better and more efficiently towards their goals. Everyone is good in their own way. So this is me. This is my way of breaking open the door for myself. A door that’s been heavily guarded by generations that came before me. I am a rebel in nature so don’t mind me if im a lone wolf because i don’t do things that make you happy. I only do things that make me happy. I respect your space and hope you will respect mine too. I am mysterious and prefer being alone and spend lots of time in the dark. Its just how i like being. I am very happy that way. Like i said im in a league of my own. I don’t need acceptance. People always ask me why i don’t like to celebrate birthdays. Its simply because i don’t do things everyone do. I can’t think of celebrating my birthday every year to remind me of how much pain my mom would have gone through to give birth to me. You want me to celebrate that as a joyous event? Im still human and i have feelings, just that they expressed differently. The greatest joy that i have is my daughter and i already see some Sigma characteristics in her and i believe i’ll be able to understand her very well.
This is something that i’ve known since young but i felt that its time for me to let go. I’ve climbed high enough being who i am. I’m still climbing. Will i stop, no. Will i quit, no. Will i take no for an answer, no. I’m feeling more hungry now as i climb. I’ve decided to lead the pack. My pack of hungry wolves. I will continue to climb till I’ve accomplished what i have set to achieve. With love, KD Rooban. Happy Birthday to me! Instead of blowing candles, here’s something different for you..Muacks!