They accept the consequences of their choices. They take responsibility for their actions and the effects of their decisions.
They possess the ability to self-monitor. Self-monitoring means that one can have an awareness of their behavior, feelings, and thoughts
They can make meaning of their past hurts and experiences and have a spiritual framework to make meaning of the bad things.
They do not engage in affective realism; they can access feelings and facts at the same time. Affective realism is basing reality on how one "feels" about events in the world.
They deal with their past; they don’t bury events. They can recognize and deal with emotionally distressing events in their past.